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29 October 2008 @ 01:03 pm
How happy are you -- really? If there’s room for improvement, then Gretchen Rubin has some suggestions.

A few years ago, on a morning like any other, I had a sudden realization: I was in danger of wasting my life. As I stared out the rain-spattered window of a New York City bus, I saw that the years were slipping by.

“What do I want from life?” I asked myself. “Well…I want to be happy.” I had many reasons to be happy: My husband was the tall, dark, handsome love of my life; we had two delightful girls, ages 1 and 7; I was a writer, living in my favorite city. I had friends; I had my health; I didn’t have to color my hair. But too often I sniped at my husband or the drugstore clerk. I felt dejected after even a minor professional setback. I lost my temper easily. Is that how a happy person would act?

I decided on the spot to begin a systematic study of happiness. (A little intense, I know. But that’s the kind of thing that appeals to me.) In the end, I spent a year test-driving the wisdom of the ages, current scientific studies, and tips from popular culture. If I followed all the advice, I wanted to know, would it work?

Well, the year is over, and I can say: It did. I made myself happier. And along the way I learned a lot about
how to be happier. Here are those lessons.

1. Don’t start with profundities.
When I began my Happiness Project, I realized pretty quickly that, rather than jumping in with lengthy daily meditation or answering deep questions of self-identity, I should start with the basics, like going to sleep at a decent hour and not letting myself get too hungry. Science backs this up; these two factors have a big impact on happiness. Learn how to Get a Good Night's Sleep.

2. Do let the sun go down on anger.
I had always scrupulously aired every irritation as soon as possible, to make sure I vented all bad feelings before bedtime. Studies show, however, that the notion of anger catharsis is poppycock. Expressing anger related to minor, fleeting annoyances just amplifies bad feelings, while not expressing anger often allows it to dissipate. (See 16 Ways to Manage Your Anger from Real Simple)

3. Fake it till you feel it.
Feelings follow actions. If I’m feeling low, I deliberately act cheery, and I find myself actually feeling happier. If I’m feeling angry at someone, I do something thoughtful for her and my feelings toward her soften. This strategy is uncannily effective.

4. Realize that anything worth doing is worth doing badly.
Challenge and novelty are key elements of happiness. The brain is stimulated by surprise, and successfully dealing with an unexpected situation gives a powerful sense of satisfaction. People who do new things — learn a game, travel to unfamiliar places — are happier than people who stick to familiar activities that they already do well. I often remind myself to “Enjoy the fun of failure” and tackle some daunting goal.

5. Don’t treat the blues with a “treat.”
Often the things I choose as “treats” aren’t good for me. The pleasure lasts a minute, but then feelings of guilt and loss of control and other negative consequences deepen the lousiness of the day. While it’s easy to think, I’ll feel good after I have a few glasses of wine…a pint of ice cream…a cigarette…a new pair of jeans, it’s worth pausing to ask whether this will truly make things better.

6. Buy some happiness.
Our basic psychological needs include feeling loved, secure, and good at what we do and having a sense of control. Money doesn’t automatically fill these requirements, but it sure can help. I’ve learned to look for ways to spend money to stay in closer contact with my family and friends; to promote my health; to work more efficiently; to eliminate sources of irritation and marital conflict; to support important causes; and to have enlarging experiences. For example, when my sister got married, I splurged on a better digital camera. It was expensive, but it gave me a lot of happiness bang for the buck.

7. Don’t insist on the best.
There are two types of decision makers. Satisficers (yes, satisficers) make a decision once their criteria are met. When they find the hotel or the pasta sauce that has the qualities they want, they’re satisfied.Maximizers want to make the best possible decision. Even if they see a bicycle or a backpack that meets their requirements, they can’t make a decision until they’ve examined every option. Satisficers tend to be happier than maximizers. Maximizers expend more time and energy reaching decisions, and they’re often anxious about their choices. Sometimes good enough is good enough.

8. Exercise to boost energy.
I knew, intellectually, that this worked, but how often have I told myself, “I’m just too tired to go to the gym”? Exercise is one of the most dependable mood-boosters. Even a 10-minute walk can brighten my outlook. Try one of these 15-Minute Workouts.

9. Stop nagging.
I knew my nagging wasn’t working particularly well, but I figured that if I stopped, my husband would never do a thing around the house. Wrong. If anything, more work got done. Plus, I got a surprisingly big happiness boost from quitting nagging. I hadn’t realized how shrewish and angry I had felt as a result of speaking like that. I replaced nagging with the following persuasive tools: wordless hints (for example, leaving a new lightbulb on the counter); using just one word (saying “Milk!” instead of talking on and on); not insisting that something be done on my schedule; and, most effective of all, doing a task myself. Why did I get to set the assignments?

10. Take action.
Some people assume happiness is mostly a matter of inborn temperament: You’re born an Eeyore or a Tigger, and that’s that. Although it’s true that genetics play a big role, about 40 percent of your happiness level is within your control. Taking time to reflect, and conscious steps to make your life happier, really does work. So use these tips to start your own Happiness Project. I promise it won’t take you a whole year.

21 October 2008 @ 03:16 pm
Nakakatamad. Nakakaantok. :(
Masama pakiramdam

Current Mood: annoyedannoyed
18 September 2008 @ 11:07 am
Food numbers to avoid

Some artificial fo0d col0urs and additives can make children hyperactive and distracted,
the six yellow, orange and red colourings are: sunset yellow, carm0isine, tartrazioe, ponceau 4R, quin0line yellow and allura red. they are found in a wide variety of softdrinks, sweets, lollies, cakes(including birthday cake icing), biscuits, milk shakes and even savoury products, such as mint chutney and mushy peas.

Bad Stress

facing s0mething with a mixture of dread, wori and anxiety.
feeling that what u do is unimp0rtant, unfulfilling and n0t worth the effort and time.
feeling out of c0ntrol and overwhelmed, with n0 end in slight and n0 help 0n the h0riz0n.

Laughter, the best medicine

trying to do my share to help the envir0nment, i set up a trash basket at my office and posted ab0ve it suggesti0n: "EMPTY WATER BOTTLES HERE."
I should have been a little m0re specific, because when i went to check it later, i didn't find any bottles in it. But it was full of water.


Current Location: technical room
Current Mood: bitchybitchy
Current Music: ugong ng aircon
21 June 2008 @ 11:02 am
Haha. Kinikilig aco kay Syaoran at Sakura. Wee~ Malapit co na matapos ang CCS. Black Jack at Midori Days naman ang susunod ;)
Current Mood: blankblank
18 May 2008 @ 06:05 pm
I believe I made the right decision. I am for career growth and not merely for being JUST employed. :)

God Hear Me! Please Guide Me!
Current Location: room
Current Mood: chipperchipper
Current Music: Sarabande [Handel]
06 May 2008 @ 03:51 pm
I'm getting paid every 15 days for nothing! SHiAT!

Nabobobo na aco sa ganito. Ano na nga ba ang mangyayari sakin pagnagpatuloy pa to? Sabi ng iba,
dapat pa daw acong matuwa kasi wala acong ginagawa pero sumasahod naman. At ang sabi naman ng iba, baka naan daw magreklamo aco kung sakaling tambakan aco ng trabaho. Pagod aco. Hindi dahil sa sobrang trabaho. WALA NGA ACONG GINAGAWA DITO EH. YUNG TIPONG MATATAWAG NA TRABAHO!

Depressing. Marami na ring nangyari na parang mga karayom na tinutusok ang puso co. Na sa sobrang dami na, di mo alam nawawalan ka na nag enerhiya na magpatuloy pa. Minsan sa sobrang sama ng loob, iniiyak co na lang. Napapamura ka kung minsan dahil nararamdaman mong hindi ka nag-eexist.

Gusto cong matuto. Pero ang patuloy na pagbabasa at puro teorya  lang, hindi to ang makakatulong saken. Nakakapagod yung ganito. Sana naman next time, mapagod aco nang may rason. Nakakatuwang isipin na tumatanggap ka ng sahod mo na alam mong may ginawa ka.

"Ayaw co na ng ganitooooooo!"

Current Location: technical room
Current Mood: boredbored
Current Music: Free [Sarah Brightman]
23 April 2008 @ 07:15 am
It has been a month since we passed our VM sample report. Still no updates about it. No tasks given. But 3 weeks ago, we were assigned to study PHP. Voila! Our IT Admin taught us Java Basics. I just don't get the point! Argh. So now, since we aren't assigned about anything, it is really inevitable for us not to visit gaming sites, hollywood and local showbiz gossip sites. WAHAHA!

I am so lazy to study PHP and Java basics. So now, i'm rereading my notes about Unix scripting. Harhar!
Current Location: technircal room
Current Mood: boredbored
25 March 2008 @ 12:14 pm
"We all have the potential to fall in love a thousand times in our lifetime. It's easy.

But there are certain people you love who do something else; they define how you classify what love is supposed to feel like. These are the most important people in your life, and you'll meet maybe four or five of these people over the span of 80 years. But there's still one more tier to all this; there is always one person you love who becomes that definition. It usually happens retrospectively, but it always happens eventually. This is the person who unknowingly sets the template for what you will always love about other people, even if some of those qualities are self-destructive and unreasonable.

You will remember having conversations with this person that never actually happened. You will recall sexual trysts with this person that never technically occurred. This is because the individual who embodies your personal definition of love does not really exist. The person is real, and the feelings are real--but you create the context. And the context is everything.

The person who defines your understanding of love is not inherently different than anyone else, and they're often just the person you happen to meet the first time you really, really want to love someone. But that person still wins. They win, and you lose. Because for the rest of your life, they will control how you feel about everyone else."

- Chuck Klosterman
Current Mood: sadsad
23 March 2008 @ 02:23 pm
A - Age: 21

B - Band Listening To Right Now: Goldfrapp

C - Career: 

D - Drink or Smoke: Neither

E - Easiest Friends To Talk To: Depende sa topic eh. Pero sige, yung paotsin people hehe

G - Gummy Bears or Gummy Worms: Gummy Worms

H - Have a Boyfriend: Yef

I- In love: Okay lang...

J - Junk Food You Like: V-Cut and Lay's.

K - Kids: Syempre. But not now. 2 lang

L – Longest ride ever: From Cavite to Alabang to Batangas to Occidental Mindoro to Calapan, Oriental Mindoro to Caticlan to Antique :D 18-20 Hours

N - Names For Your Future Kids: Pambabae lang eh. Gusto co ng Yulia Christall

O - One Wish You Have Now: Peace of Mind. Daming agam-agam lately..

P – Phobias: Hay naku. Ipis. Pramis

Q - Favorite Quote: As of now, eto, "When you have a fight with your conscience and you lose... You Win."

R - Reasons To Smile: Pag-inaantok na aco. ^_~ Escaping reality =)) Seriously

S - Sleeping Hours: 7 Hours

T - Time You Woke Up: 7:30 Am

U - Unknown Fact About You: Marami acong ginagawa nang sabay-sabay. Pero kokonti lang ang natatapos co.

V - Vegetable You Hate: Upo

W - Worst Habit: Procrastination

X - X-rays You've Had: Chest

Y - Yummy Foods: Pasta. Mashed Potatoes. Sinigang na Hipon. Sweet 'n Spicy Crab. Calamari. Cheesy Lasagna.

Z - Zodiac Sign: Sagittarius
Current Location: room
Current Mood: anxiousanxious
Current Music: Black Cherry [Goldfrapp]
03 March 2008 @ 12:37 am

2k for MMU
400 for Elianto Buys
1k manicure, pedicure, pagupit, merienda
300+ L'oreal Conditioner and kaeklatan

pichipichi. anu-ano. di co na malaman kung saan napupunta ang sahod co. Omygas!

And speaking of haircut pala, shemay. Sana pala di muna aco nagpagupit. Kung may budget lang aco pinarebond co na 'tong buhok co. Pero ang nauna cong plano talaga eh magpakulot. Unfortunately, di pwede. May hair dye pa kasi ang buhok co. Kaya co rin pinagupitan para maalis yung buhok na may kulay.

Sa byernes pala, punta kaming Tarlac. At sana maka-akyat kaming Baguio. Para mamili ng Angel Cookies. Pero mukhang di matutuloy yung latter na sinabi co. On a tight budget ang tropa T_T

Oh Well! Monday na. Gottaaa Sleep~
Current Location: room
Current Mood: sleepysleepy
Current Music: Perfect [Flyleaf]